If you’ve ever entertained the idea of engaging in a bit of bondage, you’re certainly not alone. Whether us Brits are becoming more liberal or E. L. James’s famous Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy is still influencing our bedroom antics, 18% of us have tried bondage and a further 19% would like to give it a go.
What is bondage?
Chances are that you’ve heard of bondage, but you may not know exactly what it entails. It involves consensually tying, binding or restraining a partner for erotic stimulation and some people also enjoy dressing up or using toys while engaging in the act.
What if I’ve never tried it before?
It’s highly recommended that you don’t embark on your first bondage experience with a near-stranger. A great deal of trust is involved with this type of sexual experimentation, so it is best reserved for those with a trusted partner.
If you’re worried about how your other half might react to the suggestion, start by dropping it into conversation. Plant the seed in your partner’s mind that this is something you might want to try but don’t expect them to be up for it then and there, respect the fact that they might need some time to think about it.
The world of bondage is hugely varied, and its extremes differ based on personal preference. Some couples like nothing more than blindfolding or tying up whereas others may think nothing of nipple clamps and a leather whip. Remember, you only ever have to do what you feel comfortable with and it’s a good idea to set boundaries before you start. If there’s anything that’s completely off-limits for you, make sure you communicate this with your partner beforehand.
Because bondage games imply a surrender of control by the restrained partner, it’s important to set a safe word so you know you can stop at any point you start to feel uncomfortable. Bondage expert, Jess Wilde says:
“This is where bondage and fetish play can even help to build a relationship and create trust. You’re giving yourself to your partner so it’s not just about sensation – it can be really quite romantic.”
If you’re interested in the psychology aspect read this article for more information: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/201206/loving-introduction-bdsm
Keep it simple
In the beginning stages, keep things simple. Don’t bring out the leather whip the first time you try bondage because this can be incredibly intimidating for both of you. Starting with something like blindfolding is a bit less daunting but can still be very pleasurable. As soon as your vision is blocked off, it heightens other responses which makes us incredibly sensitive to touch.
People are often put off the idea of bondage because it conjures up images of nipple clamps and ball gags but bondage gear now accommodates those who prefer to keep things soft and sensual so it feels more like lingerie.
Whether you’re thinking about trying bondage for the first time or you regularly experiment with it, we have a huge range of bondage gear including toys, restraints, paddles, whips, handcuffs and anything else you could possibly need. Don’t worry, we use discreet packaging so there won’t be any embarrassing encounters with the postman!